I Did Not Give You a Heart of Fear

For God has not given us a spirit of fear,
but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
~2 Timothy 1:7

For me the spiritual path has always been learning how to die. That involves not just death at the end of this particular life, but all the falling apart that happens continually. The fear of death— which is also the fear of groundlessness, of insecurity, of not having it all together—seems to be the most fundamental thing that we have to work with… We have so much fear of not being in control, of not being able to hold on to things. Yet the true nature of things is that you’re never in control. You’re never in control. You can never hold on to anything. That’s the nature of how things are… So my own path has been training to relax with groundlessness and the panic that accompanies it….training to die continually.
~Pema Chodron
Buddhist Nun

I’ve always known I wasn’t an adventurous person.  I was too concerned with being safe, with being in control. I spent years powering through my life, manipulating my experiences to get that desired outcome.  I was good at it too.  You have to be when you’re that scared.  Of course at the time I didn’t know I was afraid.  It took me years of living with my fear outright before I could see how it had always been there, just beyond my conscious mind.   In that hidden part of who I was, the wolves were always at the door…

When the unthinkable happened, and I became ill, the fear surfaced at last, and I found myself  in an almost constant state of anxiety. Control had finally proven itself to be the grand illusion all the great scholars said it was.  Life had suddenly become precarious and changeable, and I found myself drowning in uncertainty. What Pema Chodron calls groundlessness. I love that word because it so aptly describes that sense of free-fall that comes with truly not knowing.

I’ve spent the last several years now coming to terms with my fear.  Through meditation and prayer, I’m learning to trust in something larger than myself, and to relax and just be with whatever comes next.  Lately I’ve been turning this phrase over and over in my mind: I Did Not Give You a Heart of Fear.  It’s been playing in my head like a melody or a song you suddenly find you can’t stop humming.  And I wonder – Is this what all this has been about?  Is that what all this has been for, to teach me this one simple truth?

Some days it still comes for me, still unsettles me and shakes me to my core, wanting to know have I learned my lesson?  Do I know who I am, and from where I come?  And I can answer now with a hard-earned, deep understanding:  I come from a place of love and light and I was not given a heart of fear…


2 thoughts on “I Did Not Give You a Heart of Fear

  1. Michelle, I know that God did not give me a spirit of fear,
    but of power and of love and of a sound mind. I do no believe that God gave me this illness. My belief is that all things evil come from the enemy. He is alive and running free, able to add sickness, evil, etc. The word tells us this fact. I have PTSD from what trauma I experienced the first years of my illness. Not only was I bedridden, unable to take care of my own needs, but I was alone many hours in the day. My hubby would get home during his lunch time and feed me and get me to the bathroom. I was so sick that I would get sudden onsets, in which I felt the room was spinning and I was sinking into the bed, for my body felt so heavy. This didn’t go on for a few weeks but years . God is the one who gave me the strength to make it through the fear. He’s not the one who caused it. On this journey, I’ve learned many things. One very important one is that to be afraid, doesn’t mean, I have no faith, or that I’m not a child of God. It means that the enemy may come at me yet the Father has the solution before the problem arises and that if I didn’t have faith , I would not be here today to talk about my experience. He did not give me a heart of fear but He didn’t say I would never feel fear. He said He would carry me when I am unable to carry myself.

    • Clarissa, Thank you so much for taking the time to read and respond to my post. Thank you too for sharing your experience of faith with me. We share so many similarities regarding our illness. My own journey of faith has been powerful and humbling and always so sweet.

      Blessings to you!

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